Eliminate the word can't in your conversations
and replace it by how or when.
Schedule top priorities of parents and bosses ahead
of personal top priorities.
Consider assigned tasks a challenging game. Strive to get
them done quickly and completely to claim "victory".
Like practicing for a race, strive to improve a little each time.
Nearly everything you do has an impact on someone. Do
everything so you can sleep at night knowing conversations
by others about your day's work will be complimentary.
You have the constitutional right to economic opportunity,
legal due process, and free speech. Everything
else is a privilege which has associated responsibilities.
Your enjoyment of the priviledge is exactly reflected
by the degree that you work to fulfill your responsibilties.
You are the CEO of your life as if it were a corporation.
You don't know everything you need to know to make you successful.
You have
lots of options and people who can help make you successful.
If you look, there are lots of examples of what works and what
doesn't. It
is your decision alone on which and how much of this advice
and help you use to become the type of person you will be.
Your efforts to get help and shape that direction will be
the sole determinant of its success.
Life is 10% of what happens to you and 90% of how you react
and what you do in response. Good and bad things happen to
everyone. Winners quickly pass bad stuff on their way to
succeed, whiners dwell on the bad and fail.
Most everything in life is a trade. If you want something, you
need to know what the other person wants in trade. Then you need
to find a way to offer something you have for it. In all cases,
listening is the most important skill.
Conduct that builds truth, responsibility, initiative, and integrity
will never fail you.
If something is important to you, don't wait for someone else
to bring it up. Take the initiative to talk about it.
Speak of only what you are sure of. Better to be silent than
speak of things that are not true. Most of what you hear is
untrue or misleading. Most of what you read has basis in fact.
Most everything must be earned and paid for ahead of time. Put
"money in the bank" now by learning skills, developing talents,
acquiring expertise that you will then have to offer.
Don't say you will do something for someone unless you are
committed to doing it. Much better to surprise them by doing it
with no advance notification than set their expectations and
then disappointing them. Every commitment you offer is a boomerang
that will come back to you, if you are not ready to catch it
it will hurt you.
When given the choice to be right or be kind, kind is nearly
always the better choice.
Complements should have lots of you's in them. Statements about
undesirable behavior, uncomfortable feelings, judgements on choices,
or any sentence containing the word
"should" are best served with plentiful doses of I.
A good life is a balance between work, education, friends,
self development, creativity, play, and good health. Pay
attention to how each of these areas are going.
Don't let any of them run dry.
